Welcome to How to Serve

Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.

Welcome to my blog. I will start by telling you a little about myself.

My life’s goal has always been to serve my Savior. If you want to know God’s will for your life, follow His commands daily, and trust in Him, and He has promised to direct our paths. (Proverbs 3:5, 6).

I grew up in a Christian home and went to an excellent Christian school for my whole life. After that, I went to a safe, conservative Christian college, which I loved. There were a few guys that I dated a little in college (nothing serious), but none of them was the one that God had for me.

Going to a Christian college was a wonderful experience. It was nothing like a secular university. The campus was safe, the peer pressure was to do right, the academic standard was high, all of my teachers glorified God in what they taught, and overall I felt that every influence was there to encourage me to do what God would have me to do. I really wonder why more people do not go to Christian colleges!

After college, God clearly led me to stay at the Christian college to get my master’s degree. After grad school, I was offered a wonderful teaching job, something that I would never have dreamed that I would be doing. It was amazing how God worked it all out: I am able to teach a subject that I love, work in a Christian ministry that is doing great things for God, get paid rather well, and still live at home with my family! On top of all that, my students are the best students ever: they are training to serve God, and I am honored to have a part in that.

I have a career that some only dream of. However, my true desire is to be a godly wife and mother, focused on serving God by serving my family. The instructions that God has given to women relate to her position within the home: submitting to her husband, training her children, managing the household.

I adore those things. I could spend all day in the kitchen and be happy! But God has not seen fit to give me a husband so far. How can I serve God by being a wife and a mother if I am not a wife or a mother? Many women in my position do one of two things. Some mope and pine away for a man, making themselves desperate, pitiful creatures that no self-respecting man would want. Others immerse themselves in the career world, climbing the ladder of success and creating a life that has no room for a family. Neither of these seems glorifying to God!! (By the way, staying at home and serving right now is not an option, because my father is not not in the picture. Both my mother and I have to work.)

So what’s a girl to do? What is the best way for me to serve God, trying to observe the directions that He has given to women, without being married? This blog will explore this issue as I continue to seek the Holy Spirit’s leading day by day.

Here are a few of the issues that I may discuss:
1. Do Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 apply to unmarried women? How?
2. What kind of example can I set for younger girls who are still forming their hopes for the future?
3. What can I do to prepare to be a godly wife and mother, if the Lord ever leads me in that direction?
4. Since there is no guarantee of a future marriage, what steps should I take as a single? How can I live a full life as a single while still preparing to be the best wife that I can be?
5. How can I keep my focus on service instead of my career?
6. Since my career is a ministry, how can I use my daily tasks to serve God?
7. What is / is not appropriate for an unmarried woman to do?
8. How can an unmarried lady keep from becoming discouraged and lonely?

Thank you for joining me. I would love to hear your comments, encouragement, advice, and edification.

Remember: whether or not God has made the choice that we think we would have chosen, His way is always best, and He is always good!